We are a group of therapists with extensive experience of working with gay men and we’ve come together to provide a safe environment, with the right kind of understanding, to allow you to explore your life and your relationships. 

Rafi Hirsch

Founder

Rafi is a UKCP registered integrative psychotherapist and clinical supervisor. He is co-founder and director of Gay Men’s Therapy. In his previous career Rafi worked in the Information Technology industry for 30 years, mainly within the financial sector. He started training as a psychotherapist in 2002 and his experience includes working for the NHS, the Terrence Higgins Trust and in private practice. He has worked with a wide variety of clients and has extensive experience of working with the LGBTQ community, particularly gay men.

Brigitte Friedrich

Founder

Brigitte is a UKCP registered existential-phenomenological psychotherapist and supervisor, working in the public sector and in private practice. She is co-founder and director of Gay Men’s Therapy. Coming originally from a background in science, she worked for several years in research and was awarded a doctorate in natural sciences (PhD level equivalent) before retraining as a psychotherapist 25 years ago. Apart from working in private practice, she has worked in the NHS and for over two decades with the Terrence Higgins Trust. Brigitte also works as a lecturer at Regent’s University. 

David Weale

Associate

David is a psychotherapist and psychotherapeutic counsellor. He is a member of UKCP and BACP. Coming from a successful career in education, David retrained as a psychotherapist, firstly as an educational therapist and more latterly as psychotherapist in transactional analysis. He has worked for several years as an honorary psychotherapist at The Terrence Higgins Trust, and London Friend.

Una Calcraft

Associate

Una trained as an integrative psychotherapist, holding a post-graduate Diploma and MA in Psychotherapy and Counselling and she is a registered member of the BACP.  Her thesis focused on the relationship between childhood experiences and harmful addictive behaviours in adulthood. Una originally worked for many years in senior management for a blue chip multinational company. After retraining as a psychotherapist she worked with offenders in an addiction rehabilitation facility, at a university providing counselling and psychotherapy to students and for the past four years provided counselling and psychotherapy to gay men at the Terrence Higgins Trust. 

Konstantinos Vlachakis

Associate

Konstantinos is a BACP registered psychotherapist with extensive training in integrative, systemic and psychodynamic approaches. He has previously held managerial positions in social care and has 9 years of clinical experience in various settings. He has worked for over 7 years at the Terrence Higgins Trust where he worked with individuals as well as couples. Apart from working with Gay Men’s Therapy he is currently working in a forensic setting whilst also completing a PhD in Psychoanalytic Studies on working psychotherapeutically with non-normative sexual fantasies. 

Aidan Hawkes

Associate

Aidan is an integrative transpersonal psychotherapist. He draws on a number of approaches to adapt his way of working to individual issues. He has worked as an honorary psychotherapist for the Cardinal Hume Trust, and for the past 3 years, the Terrence Higgins Trust.  He balanced his psychotherapy training with a career in the advertising and TV industries.

Richard Jarman

Honorary Psychotherapist

Richard has worked as an honorary psychotherapist in the NHS since 2017 and has trained at the Tavistock & Portman NHS Trust. He is currently completing his advanced training at Regent’s University. Prior to his training as a psychotherapist, Richard worked in PR/ communications and also in UK higher education. He began working with Gay Men’s Therapy in 2020. His experience includes working for the Terrence Higgins Trust and with Mind, the mental- health charity. He is currently working towards UKCP-registration as integrative psychotherapist.

Tony Furlong

Honorary Psychotherapist

Tony is currently completing his advanced training as an integrative psychotherapist at the University of East London after beginning his studies in counselling and psychotherapy at the Mary Ward Centre. Previously he worked as a researcher and tutor at the University of Edinburgh, where he received a PhD in gender, sexuality and urban space before joining METRO Charity where he has managed HIV and sexual health programmes for over 9 years, with a focus on LGBTQ+ and migrant communities.